01.05.09
Controlling Parents (Elizabeth in Richmond)
Hey Jaqi.
Okay so I’ve been having lots of personal issues and my parents started digging around in my stuff and found out. so now I’m seeing shrinks and stuff. anyway, i know it’s only fair that they try to control me more, but they are out of control! I’m not aloud to hang out with my friends, i don’t have an ipod, phone / phone privileges, and i only have supervised internet access. They also take some of my stuff that they decide is “inappropriate” like certain clothes and my hair dye (black). ugh. i just want my stuff back. and another problem. the guy i like (he likes me too) they absolutely hate. they found out about him by spying on my facebook!! so now i don’t have facebook either and they hate Zach (the guy). i have absolutely no idea what to do because no one will listen to me!!
Hey Elizabeth,
So first advice about the parents. Without more info, I’m not sure why your parents are acting this way, but it sounds like they’re probably worried about you. Try being more truthful with them about what is going on in your life; that will probably help them to trust you more. When they trust you they probably won’t be so controlling. Also if you try to get along with your parents everything will be easier for all of you. Talk things out with them calmly and honestly and that will probably help a lot. My mom and I used to fight all the time and we worked it out through conversations, not fights, but everyday talking.
About the guy, you should probably talk to your parents about him. Figure why they hate him so much. Does he have anything to do with the personal problems you’re having? Or maybe they just think he does. Or they think he’s a bad influence? If you think they are wrong about Zach and you really like him, maybe they can get to know him.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. Email me again if you want to talk.
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
