01.05.09
I want to be more likable (Rachael in Quincy)
Hi Jaqi!
I hope you can help me. I think there’s something wrong with me. I’ve liked boys for a long time but they’ve never liked me back. All my friends have had multiple boyfriends and first kisses, but not me. I think it’s because I’m not pretty, thin, athletic, or talented like the other girls. All I can do is draw. So now I’m really shy around boys because they’re mean to me. I want to be more likable and stuff, but I can’t change who I am. Please help me!
Thanks,
Rach
Hi Rach,
If you feel like you aren’t pretty, thin, athletic, talented or likable, do something for yourself to help change your self-image. The way you feel about yourself has a major effect on how everyone around you sees you and feels about you! For example, if you’re concerned about your figure, start eating healthy and exercising. We can’t all look like runway models, but most anyone can improve their figure by exercising.
If you don’t feel pretty, remember that everyone looks different, no one is the same. There are different kinds of pretty believe it or not. Some people have great smiles or great hair or pretty eyes. Draw attention to the parts of you that you like (with flattering clothes and make-up) and draw attention away from what you don’t like. Ask your mom or older sister to teach you how to use make-up if you aren’t already using it, but remember that you’re drawing attention to your best feature not your whole face.
Feeling good about the way you look builds confidence and that’s good for your personality (just don’t build too much confidence). Remember to be yourself because that’s really important; never pretend to be something you’re not.
I used to feel almost the same about myself and what others thought of me; these ideas helped me out. I hope they can help you too!
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
