01.18.09
Posted in Dating at 9:35 pm by jaqi
Dear Jaqi,
There’s this boy that i like but i’ve never talked to him. We’re in this group thing where we see each other every week. On new years we were leaving out of the door and my mom gave him a hug. So then she told me to give him a hug. But i think he likes me what should i do. How can i talk to him?
Can you talk to each other during this group thing? Is that the only time you see him? If you can talk to him there, or somewhere else that you see him, try talking to him about something you both have in common. If you don’t know whats similar about you two, then find out. Ask him what he likes to do in his spare time or something. If you can’t talk to him there, you’ll have to find a way to see him somewhere you CAN talk. I’m not really sure how to help you with that, but if you want to you can go back to the email form and email me again with more info!
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
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01.17.09
Posted in Dating at 1:04 pm by jaqi
Dear jaqi
I don’t kno what to do I kno this guy since we were 9 yearsz old he is like part of my family since we were kids we always had a crush on each other 3 weeks ago he called my dad asking him if he could take me out to the movies and surprisingly my dad said yes now every time I’m with him I get so nervous so when he talks to him I always come out with a attitude and its becoming a habit and I don’t want to loose him I love him so much
What do I do??
Dear Angie,
You already know he likes you, so you have nothing to be nervous about! Just try your best to be yourself. Maybe you should try talking to him about it. Just tell him you know that you’ve been acting kinda strange sometimes lately and you said some things you don’t mean. If you tell him that the attitude is unintentional, then that should help some.
When you’re about to say something mean just catch yourself and don’t say anything for a bit. Remember how much you like him and that you have nothing to be nervous about. Think about what you really WANT to say before you say anything.
Don’t forget, you have known each other a long time and he knows you and has had a crush on you all these years! Don’t be nervous. Enjoy it!
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
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01.06.09
Posted in Dating at 11:38 pm by jaqi
Hi, i knw this may sound crazy but i met this guy online playing a game… i have knwn him for a few years nw and im falling for him more and more every day… it seems like i could never get over him although im only turning 13 this yr i think i myt be in love or just a silly crush! he has never asked me to do anything or forced me and i was wondering if u thought it was possible to fall in love with someone online? (he is 4 years older)
Danielle,
Falling in love at 13 is unlikely especially with someone you only know online. At your age it’s important to interact with teens your age. Go out and meet a guy in person, like at your school or something, or church. Another thing… make sure he’s your age, or really close.
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
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Posted in Dating at 3:54 pm by jaqi
Hey jaqi
Im dating this guy n i like him a lot. When we first started going out we talked all the time, but now we don’t really talk. He doesn’t call me any more, he puts me on hold for other girls. I am thinking about breaking up with him but im not really sure what i should do. What should i do??
Brittany,
When boyfriends stop caring as much as they used to I usually talk to them. In the end if the conversation doesn’t really turn out too great then I would break up with them. Try giving this guy a chance to explain, it’s possible that it could be something ridiculous and talking could fix it. If he doesn’t want to take the time to talk then break up with him.
If you stay with him then he needs to treat you right, no more putting you on hold for other girls. If he doesn’t do it break up with him.
Hs&Ks,
Jaqi
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12.31.08
Posted in Dating, Sex at 12:06 am by jaqi
Dear jaqi,
This is my big issue!! I fell in love with a 21 year old and i knew i would do anything for him so we desited to go on and go for it (sex) and regreted it but he was there for me and said that if i didnt want to do it anymore then its fine and then he broke up with me like half a month after and now i just found out he has a 7 year old son!!! im really angry, can you help me out or like guide me or something please
oh and also like everyone knows in my art fabric thingy that i lost my virginity to him 
-i really need help, i feel used
Dear Spencer,
Being in love with someone older is tricky. Something I’ve discovered about dating is that it’s usually best to go out with someone you know or you get to know them first before even thinking about having any kind of relationship. If you try that then you’ll probably end up liking a guy who won’t just up and go or break up with you unexpectedly. You won’t end up feeling used. Also, try to stick with guys that are around your age. You will have more in common (and that will usually ensure they don’t have 7 year old kids too).
About the art fabric thingy. Just ignore them. It is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. Usually people leave you alone about things when they see you aren’t being affected by what they say.
Good luck,
Jaqi
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12.29.08
Posted in Dating, Sex at 11:56 pm by jaqi
I have two problems both about boys. There are two boys on my street that are 16 or 17 and I think they like me Im only 13 and I kind of like them what do I do. They both are way to old for me!
My friend also has a crush on this boy, but i think he likes me. He hugs me and talks to me all the time during class. He even stares at me! I really don’t know what to do! The worst part is I think I like him too.
Older guys that go for younger girls like you are usually just interested in sex. Be cautious around them. Don’t show that you like them. I had a friend once that had a neighbor who was 17 and she was 14. Let’s just say things didn’t turn out so well.
About this other guy from school, if you like him, show it, let him know. It’s up to the guy to choose who he likes. Give him the option.
Good luck,
Jaqi
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Posted in Dating, Parents, School at 12:31 am by jaqi
Dear Jaqi,
i am having lots of problems…
first my best friend used to date this boy named Brandon, and i met him at the teen center.. and sometimes he hugs me and talks to me most of the time.. and i am having a major crush on him..he knows that i like him and i think he likes me back, but he already has a current girlfriend, what should i do?? and my next problem, is that my little sister and my mom always gets me mad once in a while and i have bad grades and my cell phone’s bill is too high. and i think its because my anger for my mom and little sister. what should i do?
Liking a taken guy is always a sucky situation to be in. Try to just be friends with him. Its not fair to his girlfriend if you both keep it up.
About your other problems, try your best to get along with your family. Usually it helps your grades if your home life is less of a challenge. Then if you get better grades and quit with the high phone bills you and your mom should get along better. Getting along with your parents is pretty important. They’ve been through a lot and are usually good people to go to for help.
Me and my mom used to fight all the time. It affected my school life (and grades) a lot. I realized it was ridiculous that we fought over such small things that were usually misunderstandings. One day I decided that when I got angry, instead of yelling, I would talk calmly to my mom so she would understand my point of view. Because I did that, my mom understood me better and was also less angry. Now that we know how to talk to each other - even when we’re mad - we get along.
Good luck with school and I hope you and your family work everything out.
Jaqi
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12.28.08
Posted in Dating at 11:49 pm by jaqi
Hey im a 14 year old teenager and i’ve been talking 2 this
boy for almost 6 months now and i really do love him but it seems lik hes only happy that he has a girlfriend people have grabed me on my butt in front of him and he never does anything about it then sometimes he just ignors me the entire day.but hes really sweet and hes smart he says he loves me but sometimes i dont think that he does.What should i do?
I hate to say it, but it doesn’t sound like this guy is really in love with you. If he’s letting other people grab your butt and ignoring you then he probably doesn’t respect you that much. Dump him and look for a guy that respects you and cares about you.
I always make sure that the guy I’m going out with is a good guy who would never let anything happen to me. Its an important thing to look for.
I hope you find someone awesome. Every girl deserves to be treated with respect!
Jaqi
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Posted in Dating at 11:09 pm by jaqi
Hi Jaqi,
About 2 months ago, my boyfriend of 8 months moved away to a different country because his parents moved. I knew that he was going to move a while back but i just assumed we wouldnt make it that far in the beginning so i would be avoiding a painful breakup. Instead I fell hard and strong for him. When he left it broke me apart, its been 2 months and i still cry myself to sleep. In the first month we talked on the phone and emailed because we both missed eachother. Now he got a few friends, and hes doing better, so he decided we shouldn’t talk. I still love him so much, and i just needed outside advice, on if this could work somehow, if i should contact him, if i should do anything. I dont want to contact him and him hate me for doing it because i keep pulling him back, but if this could workout somehow i want to. i love him very much and i need to kno if i could do anything to have him back.
Dear ConfusedNhopeless,
When your boyfriend moves it really does feel like your world is falling apart. The sad thing is that long-distance relationships usually don’t work out for us teenagers. It sucks that you haven’t been talking to each other lately, if you guys really care about each other then it shouldn’t hurt to talk every now and then. Try to be friends with each other, and who knows, one day you both might live near each other again. (after you graduate) If you’re both single by then then maybe you could continue the relationship.
Go ahead and talk to him. Ask him what he thinks about staying in touch and being friends.
I hope everything works out for you,
Jaqi
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Posted in Dating at 11:01 pm by jaqi
Dear Jaqi,
My name is gabby and i am shy when it comes to talking to the boys i like. Okay it’s these two boys at my church and they both are very cute. Ones name is R and the other one is D. D likes to be in his own little world but then he stares at me sometimes. R always stares at me whether im looking or not but sometimes it seem like he has an attitude also every time i leave from church R is always by the door. Now that i’ve gave you some background information i wanna know who do you think i should like and what should i do. Im am in desprate need so please respond back.
Thanks,
Gabby
Gabby,
I’ve been through situations like yours many times. It depends on who you have more in common with. You’ve said that both guys are attractive, so now check out their personalities. If you have more in common with a guy it is easier to talk to them.
I’ve had to choose between guys before and it’s usually not very easy. Think about which one you’ll be more comfortable talking to, hanging out with, etc.
Good luck,
Jaqi
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